The first love has no experience 's guide of blindlying date how to retrieve the girl friend that I wonder
Hello, I say the situation first. She and I associated for 3 years, rented house together later. It is unable to retrieve to confirm and can only say good-bye today. I have been there to their family to know for the second year, she saw my parents too. Her parents have no opinions. My parents have not issued the view, and
And her mother has met with my father. We can say that waits for marriage, the question is in the house, because parents divorce, father has new families, mother has been single all the time, how much is the family. This has been dragged.
In 3 months before departure, start an undertaking (run websites and the advertisement) in decision that I resign . Business that I stay at home without going out to run of some time. Then several pieces of work are being done on hand, she goes to work alone. She has had and talked about me. I explain to her hard, hope to come slowly. She is often with her women friend in this period of time, communicating with me lacks. I fail to experience her change too. Because think the work very stuffy, in addition, she misses the persons of the family very much, decides to return to homeland and lie, actually planned to ask for leave to go back, I agreed too she relieves boredom. But is close to the end, she resigns without doing. I discuss business outside at that time, she phone say, have thing give me some advice on. I felt wrong indistinctly, because before she said that would say good-bye, rushed to go back, she hears the voice that I opened the door run over, sees the expression in one's eyes that she is reluctant to part, I know that different in the past this time. My possible control mood did not go to cherish her, I'm afraid she cries out, it is embraced finally that afraid to become this time.
I can only try to persuade her, speak the future plan, she cries straight. The middle speak some the intersection of colloquial speech and amusing she, I it thinks to be should out of question. But she insists on going, and the tickets have been all bought. I have no language. She said that she wanted to go to Chengdu to look for a job. I have not stopped her. I hope while sending her off she can give me some time. Whom I think to borrow money, buy house she has sense of safety so too. She has not agreed, can not speak well either.
About two weeks later, I contact her, she has not been connecting all the time, I ask urgently, let those women friends of hers help me to be tried to persuade. Have no result. She says in the mail, her parents think us improper, she thinks me too weak too finally, see through my family, say I do not know how to be romantic, do not like making the person in the society. Think I have no future, though has liked already gone over. Hope I do not insist on again. This is probably course, thank you for your ability the heart sees here.
Through her qq space, I think she is who loves me, she knows too I love her. But reality has been chosen to give up by her. I can understand this. I tell her finally, " even if you got married, so long as that man treats you badly, so long as you are willing, I pay no attention to others' view, all wait for you to come back " I say so because sometimes her personality is very unbending, eager to do well in everything. I am tolerant and understanding her. She is not that that kind visits the gold girl very much, supports oneself very much. This is the reason why I like her too, she is my first girl friend. And I see the emotional person very much. She once saw the emotional person very much too, but made valueing the bread later.
Excuse me, you think I insist on waiting for her like this, can she come around to the correct way of thinking? Except my own efforts and sincerity, how I do also! Seeing her photo each time, I think I can not forget her this lifetime. She say I know how, coax she, but she thinks me very false again when I display very much very intimate often, even I myself think so.
I really have no experience in this respect, have been asked! 12 points of thanks! ! ! [Look over the original text ]
[The woman helps Propose ]
We often hear the girl say that need one kind " Sense of safety " ,This thing sounds very profound, but really one kind needs that truly. So true that everybody get. Your question may lie in sense of safety your girlfriend of this thing would not get at your place. In other words, the insufficiency experienced.
As a man is defined as not knowing how to be romantic by the remaining half, do not like making the person in the society. Equate with such a label stuck: This man lacks the temperament and interest, the personality is stopped up. Is dissatisfied that giving vent to, mood has exposed the actual demand too, may well ask whether you do in these two respects enoughly well? Whether the appearance of the boyfriend that expects with her has distances greatly.
In fact suggestions that she gave have been already abundant - -"She say I know how, coax she, but she thinks me very false again when I display very much very intimate often, even I myself think so. " Say you do not know how to coax her, it was spiritual profound demand that was in fact expressed, for example cared, are paid attention to. If even this basic demand can not be got, also what does this lover do that?
What she said has no future, just a kind of assumption judgement, can be interpreted as estimating pessimism of the future in advance. Should relate to your undertaking with unstable current situation.
Think a person rather a bit simpler with emotional and heavy bread. Need emotion and bread everybody,nobody than who it is noble. Sometimes you think what she wants is bread, in fact the possibility that she wants is only a steady and sure embrace.
Retrieve a person with retrieving the place that a wall plays the same tune on different musical instruments, that is to mend that hole. Can only be accepted and lost again if there are no actual effective repair movements. Good luck.
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