Cohabit after divorcing Unfinished _'s unmarried cohabitation of the helpless feeling

Cohabit after divorcing Unfinished _'s unmarried cohabitation of the helpless feeling

It needs the house to get married, it needs the house even more to divorce. There is a one's own house, that is essential living in ground and sanctuary in this world. A lot of divorced couple, for various reasons, have to continue living the samely
Under the eave. Divorce and then but also " Cohabit " Room one, is that a helpless or feeling is unfinished on earth?
In order to wait for the beloved daughter to go home
Xu Hong: Male, 48 years old, executive of company of foreign enterprise
After I divorce wife, remarry respectively, but our two family still live under the same eave so far. Such inhabitancy state at present, it is mainly for my treasure daughter Xu Juan, hope she can come back to see us one day.
Former wife and I know upon somebody's introduction, know for less than 1 month, got married hastily, the daughter was born in the second year. After marriage, because the differences of both sides are too big, we will often quarrel inevitably, and the crack is greater and greater, the marriage is mainly maintained by the daughter.
40 that year such as year old such as I, meet Ying Huang, classmate of high school, of me, she demobilize, come Shenzhen from army, has already divorced, there is a daughter too. It may be the reason why wife and I have very bad relation, I and yellow hawk are very close when coming and going. At the very beginning, I am full of sense of guilt to the wife, before long, I know the wife has been already " someone " too outside (used after a verb to indicate the completion of an action) .
After the noisy several shelf, we plan, divorce, consider daughter study in Senior Three at that time, then no one makes noise. Such awkward relation has been kept not breaking until the daughter read greatly for the moment all t he time. On a weekend evening in summer vacation of that year, I burnt several records of delicious and delightful cooked food as usual, have prepared against beer beverage outside. Unlike this, I and former wife mood at this moment are extremely heavy. Only the daughter is eating the chicken claw tastefully, say innocently: " Dad, on each Saturday evening later, you burn chicken's claw to eat for mother and me! " Listen to the intersection of daughter and sentence this, nose of me sour, tears gush out eye socket almost. The expression on wife's face is a bit unusual too, like having a kind of heartrending feeling. I hold one's own mood, say to the daughter a little awkwardly: " Beautiful and beautiful, something must tell you, your mother and I have already divorced for two years today, for not influencing you to participate in college entrance examination, we conceal you. You are a university student now, can accept this reality. From tomorrow, you will live with your mother to go to grandmother's family. " " Why? " The daughter is stupefied, she looks at we two not understanding, I do not know for the moment how to answer. The daughter is a bit angry, roar loudly: " No! I do not allow you to divorce, I will live with you! " . The former wife is a bit impatient: " Beautiful and beautiful and obedient, otherwise mother does not need you either! " The daughter says nothing, leave the bowls and chopsticks behind and go out of the door, disappear in the pitch-dark night.
I have found the daughter in a hotel, in daughter's eyes, my father is a good person, mother is a good person too, and two adults both love her very much, why do two good persons who love her want to divorce? I know that if tell the daughter the true reason to divorce now, will leave psychology that she is fragile the bad result, I do not want to let daughters injured in tragedy of this marriage, she is innocent after all. The daughter drinks a glass of beer up at on gulp, ask to me: " Dad, why do you and mother want to divorce? " I keep silent, the daughter says sadly: " Dad, you do not hide from me again, I see, you all want to reorganize a family. But, what shall I do? Have you considered my situation? " Looking at the day by day ripe daughter, I am reticent for a moment, then try inquiring after: " Juan Zi, will you blame father? " The daughter has shaken the head very heavily: " It can't be! But I really feel sorry for you! " I did not think, unexpectedly the daughter can accept this reality tolerantly like this. It seems, the daughter is not as fragile as what I imagined. A stone accumulated in my bottom of heart in the past few years has been dropped at long last, this had a kind of as if relieved of a heavy load feeling on I.
However, I am wrong, the child's heart has really received very great blow. She begins not to go home, listens to classmate of the school, she does not go to class frequently yet, not even having an examination, everyone can not try to persuade her at that time. One week later, she came back to say to her mother and me suddenly: " Father, mother, you, if do need to divorce, I stop constantly you, must satisfied with first terms of the daughter, that is to divorce in the family, you must live together with me. Otherwise, if I am not your daughter, I will never go back to this home! " We know, the daughter is always very wilful, she makes it after deciding to appear. The daughter has very tough attitude on one hand, we are afraid she really has a unexcepted misfortune, on the other hand both of us all have no ability to purchase one more house during short time. Then, we have agreed to daughter's almost harsh requirement. The next day, we, separate around the house of Room two, room three originally, because is the first floor, former wife and daughter pass in and out from the main entrance of the house, I have opened in the backyard.
Divorcing in the family, we have passed for half a year in this way. Because of keeping out the urgent requirement that the yellow hawk is going to marry, I remarry, the former wife plans to remarry after the daughter graduate from university too. That period of time when I just began after marriage, the daughter had nearly gone home every day, but she was not for accompanying her mother, but for " Torment " That of mine just entered new wife Huang Ying of the door. Yellow hawk fears insects, beautiful and beautiful in the bag bag of the yellow hawk, in the pocket of the clothes, often put various insects, then hide and listen to her scream in different places. Yellow hawk is really very afraid, sometimes is frightened so that faces are all pale. Yellow hawk has trouble of headache and insomnia, the daughter often lets a crowd of classmates play at home on weekend, playing is the more than half night. The daughter tries every means to plan all sorts of practical jokes, her mother and I feel a bit excessive sometimes, but all of us are bearing, hope the child will accept reality one day eventually.
But our hope evaporated finally. When the daughter learns her mother wants to remarry too, and will live with a baffled younger brother together, she is missing again. Our two family are so anxious that running around in circles, mobilize all relations to look for and has not found either everywhere. Report a case to police finally, publication start, reduce at newspaper, come my home have a meal one change January once into by one week too, she has seldom come gradually. Let whom people can't stand most, she run into Magi's unit still, shout, yell " the shameless woman collude, move the intersection of I and husband! "
In addition, the former wife is also giving me a piggyback to instigate children and say: " If you have a stepmother, you will be certain to be be bullied by her in the future! " Some day, Magi comes to my home to say to me: " You should marry me, besides obstacle of your former wife, there is your son, you must let your son accept me. " I say to the son in front of calling the son Magi: " This is auntie Magi, she is your new mother later. " Who knows the son has heard, does not say telling the gift at all: " I have mothers, I do not need this new mother, it is shameless woman of yours, let my father divorce my mother, you do not want to be my new mother forever. Mother has said, the stepmother is the most vicious, have, youed, I must not have auspicious day in the future. " Magi has heard and felt a pain very much, runs sealing the face and goes.
Magi has left me finally, however, I am who understands Magi, can who can standing that almost revenge of hysteria of my former wife. So, even if the girl friend who presented the heart appearance in my life later, I did not dare to act rashly either.
We collect it back to love old
Song Fang's daughter, 27 years old, network company clerk
Qiang He digital Deputy Director of design office, I, and what better to know each other, because he recommends me to find this good job now. Just know his personality is publicized, short-tempered, Vanity is too strong after getting married. Having knocked against for a long time, he no longer does any housework, always commands me to do various kinds of things bloated with pride. It is limited to stand eventually, two people's war begins to never stop. What strong mother has come to live for one month that time, what is too strong to tell me when leave, having given to his mother of 10,000 yuan, we two are big and noisy for this. He Qiang says I treat mother-in-law badly, do not cook, does not wash the clothes, return the grumble pages and pages. I think what be strong to choose bone in the egg, find fault on purpose, quarrel, reach we begin, struggle for a divorce finally. I feel wronged and act rashly and say: " From from,not too bad in you, there are not too bad too on I, why be fight for flushed. " At the beginning, I want to go to court and cut apart the house property, but not gone finally, keen on face saving, so long as what is too strong to force me in the dead end, let it be, because our both sides have no ability to buy one more house. After determining to divorce, He Qiang and I think that regrets a bit, according to that antenuptial fate, that emotion, we have gone to Department of Civil Affairs to sign the divorce agreement: Do not cut apart the house property, the room of temporary cohabitation one after divorcing.
Divorcing that evening formally, He Qiang asked me to go to the restaurant to have a meal, he ignored prices on several dishes of famous dish of point, there is first-class wine, have really given me a start. I say: " He Qiang, is it crazy that you send any? " He Qiang is keeping watch on me straight directly, says thereafter: " You let once of my atmosphere! " Oh! I remember, he was too stingy that I always said before originally. I say: " Has divorced, what air is still gambled! " He Qiang says: " I have not felt wronged and acted rashly, I am from the bottom of one's heart, I always think we divorce and seem it is a mistake. " We have not eaten a lot of things, but a meal has come down spent him more than 600 yuan.
Have a meal, I plan, take bus, leave alone, Qiang He wave, stop a taxi, we have gone home by bus together, have not spoken, has not embraced, each enter the room, each sleep, feel. At first night saying good-bye, I am proud, appreciate that green divorce certificate which symbolizes freedom, counting the reason to divorce him one by one: " Can not afford to call in the morning, the quilt is not only covered pile, the supper takes without cooking, the bowl disc steeps without brushing, come off duty and does not urge and does not return; Have a bath for long time, the razor is shown arbitrarily, the dirty socks are filled in arbitrarily, the books and periodicals newspaper throws out without care; You listen to him speaking in the conference hall where one has all the say, he listens to you speaking the wind is not put either; Stingy to wife, to atmosphere, mother of he, such a man should from would have! " Counting, I fall asleep dimly.
However, without He Qiang, the question comes again and again. Having lost electrical power at night some day, I wanted to see that has not found the candle for quite a while, there is not even a lighter. Do not think of He Qiang but phones with mobile telephone and tells me, there is a flashlight in drawer of that below to say the book case. Do I ask where he is now? Why know the family has lost electrical power? He says he is in the Internet cafe, it is the child of neighbour that come to the Internet cafe to play that says we have lost electrical power in the Residential Area. I opened the drawer and saw suddenly at once, that was the small present that he gave to me originally originally, a small flashlight that children played, I disliked him for being too stingy at that time, threw it away, have never expected it is so important to me now.
One week later, I jump to the network company and do the multimedia business, I came back home to cook at noon that day, coal gas, suddenly, ponder, ask who come on, help, change, where know, go home evening, but find unexpectedly the gas range can be lighted. See on the sitting room, like neat getting clean a lot of, I want what it is must better to come back and then.
Having divorced for nearly one month, in the morning some day, I am planning to go to participate in an important meeting in the unit, the unexpected mobile phone has rung, there is a message: " Let's deserve about official holidays, take a good rest! " Oh, I have almost forgotten, take the sanltary towel at once, at the time of the banquet at noon by oneself, " official holiday " If really come. If not He Qiang reminds, I am extremely awkward. These again and again, make me remember again He Qiang's advantage comes, so careful and gentle, why in the past not realize? Still always trouble him, detest him. I and he each pass now, in the brain but a always hollow one, what does it feel little always. Do I begin to suspect whether we have divorced to make a serious mistake?
Flash to summer, in my bedroom, besides a comfortable sleeping on the bed, have also acquired air conditioner of Gree. What is that strong to see me often getting hot full the intersection of body and profuse sweating, for what I installed. He say he man, can with barebacked to sleep leaving the door open, and it is inconvenient for me.
I find when he is not at home each time, how deep one's own emotion to him is. Divorcing at night of one day one years later, I wanted to find out something in my bedroom suddenly, open the leather trunk, has found what strong that pile of love letters that wrote to me it is, is reading, I cried suddenly, divorced in the time in this year, I thought I was a personal life. In fact, Qiang He, still at my side, still in heart of me, the intersection of emotion and cooling after divorce of us intensify instead. That night, because of the intersection of it and heat very much, what be better to sleep opening the door, I slip into his room stealthily, silent to sleep by him. When He Qiang woke up, I pair hold in hands blow face of him, say mutter: " Strong, tomorrow, we will go to Department of Civil Affairs to register and get married again, OK? " He Qiang hears, embraces me tightly, has not loosed one's grip for one night.


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